It’s pretty much the end of the year. And you know what that means, don’t you? It’s time for me to get all reflective again, as I share my life lessons of 2017!
The year of introspection, procrastination and hesitation.
- Life really is a rollercoaster. (Ronan Keating was right*.) It consists of peaks and troughs, and you’ve got to ride out the rough to get to the smooth.
- I think I’ve been so frustrated at myself because I’ve been too reluctant to move towards any discernible path this year. I’ve been stood at a five way crossroads and, uncharacteristically, haven’t been able to take more than a few steps down any particular road before I panic and run back to square one.
- It’s okay to take a break, and go easy on yourself, but sometimes you really have to kick yourself up the… bum, big time. Adulthood is about getting that balance right, because there’s seldom anyone else who can do it for you.
- People get ill and there’s nothing you can do about it. When they get ill there can be serious collateral damage, but again, there’s nothing you can do.
- Sometimes, you’ve got to walk alone. Nobody can hold your hand or do something for you. You’ve got to be brave.
- You need to find what comforts you, and do something nice for yourself every day. It’s so underrated, yet incredibly important.
- You can’t make people be your friend, and you should definitely let them go if they make you feel bad about yourself.
- You also can’t make someone else get their act together. It’s up to them to sort their life out, not you.
- A good measure of working out whether someone’s a good friend or not is to ask yourself one question: ‘if I got hit by a bus tomorrow, would they come and visit me in hospital?’ If the answer’s a big fat ‘no’, then they’re not a proper friend. (They’re not worth bothering with, especially if you know you’d definitely be by their side.)
- I’ve said it before a million times, but I’m going to say it again because it seemed to resonate with some of you: ‘Creativity is the antidote to an anxious mind.’
- When times get tough, you’ll always surprise yourself with how strong you are and where you find that strength from.
- We all have different definitions of success. Some people regard meeting the love of their life as the pinnacle, whereas others just settle on getting a second date as a win.
- Sometimes you have to totally drift apart from someone before you realise how they *might* have felt about you. But, by the time you’ve put put two and two together, it’s often too late.
- There are far too many creepy perverts that think it’s okay to send dirty messages to women on the Internet; women they don’t know, women who don’t want to get to know them… No, you can’t meet me and tie me up in handcuffs, you dirty git.
- When you bump into someone who treated you badly, let them show their true colours, rather than rising to the bait.
- You can bury your head in the sand, but it gets you nowhere. You’re the one who suffers as a result.
- If your mum goes to see a psychic who tells her you’re soon going to meet ‘the one’ and have a baby together very quickly, try not to laugh in her (relieved) face.
- Eventually people stop bothering to ask if ‘you’re courting’ because they know what the answer’s going to be.
- You can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. (And that applies to all aspects of life.)
- Every girl has a secret Pinterest wedding board, even if they’re destined to be a crinkly old spinster.
- There comes a time when you have to stop moaning about the state of your love life, even if it is non-existent.
(Like now, Katie…)
- You can write a blog post that you think is completely innocuous (something as innocent as a post about flowers) and someone on the Internet will take offence (and keep tweeting you to tell you you’re wrong.)
- Spending less time on social media is good for you. It might not be good for your blog stats, or your social life, but it’s good for your sanity, which can only be a good thing, can’t it?
- People put less effort into loads of their friendships nowadays, because the Internet’s made them really lazy.
- Your Domain Authority dropping (okay, plummeting) isn’t the end of the world.
- I am DREADFUL at reading and replying to emails/texts/messages. I’ve become one of those people I hate… (So, sorry if you’ve been waiting for a reply from me since 2016! I’m awful, I know.)
- It’s far, far too easy to fall down a YouTube rabbit hole. (Okay, that’s not a lesson I’ve learned this year, but it’s been hard to resist that temptation more than ever this year.)
- Some men will send you unwanted messages on the Internet, just to tell you you’re ugly. (When the ugliest thing is their vile personality….)
- More people are impressed by blogging than you’d think. It feels like people are taking it more seriously and are less detrimental about it.
- Facebook have ruined Instagram. Totally decimated it.
- I never actually use my phone for its primary purpose(s) anymore. Calls and texting? What is this? 1990?
And there we have it! My (quite depressing) life lessons of 2017.
I’ll be back tomorrow with the last post of the year!
In the meantime, let me know what lessons you’ve taken from this year in the comments!