I turned 27 last week! (Yep, I’m getting really old now, I know…) So, to celebrate, I thought I’d share twenty six lessons that I’ve learned in twenty six years!
One // The more you want something in life, the more elusive it seems to be.
Two // When several of your worst-case scenarios happen all at once, you’ll surprise yourself at how strong you actually are, and how easily you can pick yourself up in the face of adversity.
Three // Any friend worth their salt would go out of their way to be there for you, and to be inclusive too. If they’re not, you’re better off without them.
Four // There’s no point holding grudges, no matter how much someone’s hurt you. They’ve moved on, so it’s daft to let the hurt and bitterness eat you up inside. Onwards is the way to go. Not backwards.
Five // Trying to force things to happen doesn’t work. Let things be.
Six // Nothing in life comes free. (Not even pizza, sadly.)
Seven // We progress through life at different paces, so you should never beat yourself up for not matching up to someone else’s timeline. You shouldn’t march to anyone’s beat but your own.
Eight // Your happiness is your job. It’s imperative that you concentrate on finding your own happiness, rather than relying on others to do it for you.
Nine // Let it go. It’s hard to do, but you’re better off letting hurt go rather than festering in negativity.
Ten // Expect nothing from no-one. That way there’s little room for disappointment when they inevitably drop you in it.
Eleven // A little kindness goes a long way in this hostile age. A smile, an offer of help, an effort to reach out. If you’re going to be anything, be kind.
Twelve // If your gut tells you that someone’s a bad’un – believe it. Their true colours will come out. You might have to wait a while to witness them in all their nasty glory, but everyone’ll see them for who they are eventually.
Thirteen // Life’s too short to be stuck doing something you’ve realised isn’t for you. If it doesn’t set your soul on fire with passion, it’s not worth putting yourself through it.
Fourteen // When you start to realise your worth, you expect better treatment from people and begin to understand that the treatment you’ve received in the past wasn’t okay.
Fifteen // You don’t have to be perfect, just being you will do.
Sixteen // You should embrace your oddities and foibles because they’re what make you, you!
Seventeen // You can never second-guess what’s going on in someone else’s head, because you’ll probably get it wrong. No-one’s a mindreader.
Eighteen // Most of your adult life will be spent complaining about how little sleep you got last night.
Nineteen // Getting older isn’t as bad as you think it’s going to be. (Famous last words…)
Twenty // You can’t force yourself into being an ‘adult’, but when you start to get there, you’ll know.
Twenty One // You are not responsible for anyone else’s problems. Don’t burden yourself and bend over backwards for people who’d never do the same for you. You’ll end up kicking yourself if you do.
Twenty Two // When you reach a certain stage in your twenties, you start to refer to everyone younger than you as ‘about twelve’.
Twenty Three // Running away won’t solve anything. Your problems just up and move with you.
Twenty Four // Perfectionism is a double-edged sword. It enables you to do stuff well, but most of the time, it’s disabling enough to stop you from doing anything at all.
Twenty Five // Anxiety stops you from achieving so many things, and from getting out there and grabbing so many opportunities too. Even though it’s pointless most of the time, it’s almost impossible to shift.
Twenty Six // The older you get, the more of these ‘wise’ things you have to think up for these blog posts each year, and the harder it gets… 🙊
So there are a few lessons that I’ve picked up in my twenty sixth year on this earth… Admittedly, it does make me sound a tad bitter at times, but I’m not. Promise.
What’ve you learned over the last year?